I've finally found, after it has eluded me for 20 years, that it's quite easy to drift in with the cool group of people if you have confidence and a sense of fun
I've also learnt that it's really really dull and frustrating, and the shyer, more quiet fringe people are actually much more interesting and nice.
Of course, this was really obvious to everyone else. But it is nice that I can claim to have all my friends because they're the most wonderful people I know, not because they're the only group of society that will tolerate me....
Hmmmm... alcohol and musings on the internet don't go well together.