's comment on emperor
s post got me thinking. So here is
Number of births you have seen and remember (in total) - if you had a baby and were concious that counts, but unless you remember your own birth it doesn't!
Number of newborn babies you have seen and remember (in total) - babies within the first week or so of being born, that you went to see because they were "new"
Number of wedding ceramonies (or equivalent) you have attended (in total)
Number of people you have seen die (in total)
Number of dead people you have seen (in total)
Give your answers for what you have seen with your own eyes happening for real in your life. But how does the distribution change if we look at films / books etc? I can think of at least a hundred gorey deaths in action films for each birth in the cinema. Also, how much of this is the age of my readership? Is it just we're at the age where our peers on average are getting married, not dying? Is society very banded by age - outside family when do we know people who are not roughly the same age as us? Or is it just that we think of people who do the same things as us as roughly the same age?
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 09:02 am (UTC)|| |
You've excluded funerals; is that intentional? I suspect for many people their only experience of death is going to funerals, which are mostly closed-coffin in the UK.
And indeed Christenings and the suchlike. I've never been to a wedding where it wasn't a ceremony (like where the only people present are the couple, the registrar and the witnesses).
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 09:03 am (UTC)|| |
I have, of course, seen dead people. But I've not seen, er, how should I put it, every day dead people, just exhibits of dead people that have been preserved in one manner or another (eg mummies, shrunken heads).
I avoid seeing such dead people where possible, because I am morally opposed to the displayment of corpses for entertainment purposes who haven't given their consent.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 10:19 am (UTC)|| |
opposed to the displayment of corpses for entertainment purposes who haven't given their consent
Would you count a documentary on WWII as (inevitably) for entertainment purposes? I think that The World At War could reasonably be said to be more than entertainment (though obviously definitions might vary).
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 09:17 am (UTC)|| |
I've seen a surprising number of dead people for someone of 21. My mother ran a residential home when I was growing up, and thus dead old people were a sort of constant. I also saw both my maternal grandparents die and then dead. I have only been to one wedding however, and seen one newborn baby. The balance may need redressing.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 09:59 am (UTC)|| |
I don't believe I've ever seen a dead person or a death directly. Some war documentaries do include large numbers of examples of both however (i.e. as opposed to the acted deaths/corpses in fiction films).
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 10:05 am (UTC)|| |
I excluded dead people on display in museums etc. I've never seen a recently dead person other than via TV, I've been to a few funerals but all were closed casket.
not sure what this is about really, but if christenings and funerals were included those numbers would be similar to weddings - all being social events. I've been to weddings christening and funerals since I was small, but a birth or death is a much more intimate personal thing which you would only see if you were very close to the people in question. I will see these during my adult life, but would be unlikely to have seen them as a child.
Yes a film will be biased towards the more exiting moments in life such as birth and death, and will not be representative, but they also have the power to compress time, such that these events can be included.
A soap opera which aims to be more realistic will probably have fewer, whilst a doom zombie doom will have more than it's fair share of the dead. *shrug* So I guess either way we get exposed to these things more in the realm of fantasy than in real life... where's this going?
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 10:25 am (UTC)|| |
Well, Matthew wrote a post about how no-one talked about suicide, and Robert mentioned that it might just be a consequence of no-one talking about death. And then I was musing whether we live in a society where we look at all the nice bits like babies and weddings, and ignore the scary bits like death. Or if that was just me. Or if it was just young people.
And when I was writing that I'd seen far more babies / weddings than deaths I thought that actually in films / TV / books it's the other way round, you get hundreds of dead people in some films and far fewer births / weddings.
But I wasn't sure if either of these were right thoughts, so I thought I'd ask people.
I felt I had to put "lots" on the weddings front, as I've rung bells at quite a few. In terms of being a guest, probably 5-10ish.
Ah, I forgot all the ones I've sung in choirs for! That would put my count up to "lots" as well.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 11:24 am (UTC)|| |
Oops, dead people I meant three. All were in RTAs, and I was in the frame of mind of "person in chapel of rest", etc.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 12:10 pm (UTC)|| |
I always forget to tick the zero box for things I haven't seen/done.
If I included The Body exhibition, then I'd have to tick 21+ for the last question, but I had trouble remembering that the bodies in that exhibition were real and not made out of wax or plastic, so it didn't seem right to count them.
On the penultimate question, I've never been present at the actual moment of death, but I have three times sat with people knowing that they were dying, and in one case, fairly certain that the death would occur within hours. That was one of the most moving experiences of my life.
i was under the impression that the bodies in "the body" exhibition were actually plasticated, not preserved or anything. so there is no human tissue left - only the colored plastics that they replaced the tissue with. the skeletons of course are real. but i think thats it.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 12:26 pm (UTC)|| |
You see quite a lot of newborns in a maternity ward :-)
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 01:24 pm (UTC)|| |
My answers on the last one are slightly skewed by having worked in a hospital and in particularly my first post in Pathology which entailed being very near to the motuary.
This is a bit off topic, but don't you know *anyone* who hasn't been to a wedding? OK, most people would go to one somewhere or other, but most of my relatives are a generation older, and most of my contemporary friends haven't got married yet.
|Date:||March 28th, 2007 02:49 pm (UTC)|| |
Lots of my friends page got invited to my wedding, so I suggest that the friends page of someone recently married is a very very skewed sample!
outside family when do we know people who are not roughly the same age as us?
At work? At church? In fact, I think education is about the only context in which we are grouped roughly by age.
i put zero, but the answer would be more along the lines of 21+ if you count birthings of domestic animals. do they count? ;-)
As it's already written here elsewhere...Orthodox/normal Russia the funeral takes place with coffin open, and it's usually surprising how good the undertakers are - there's peace in completely calm and serene expressions of the dead compared to their ugly pre-death misery condition/agonised way they died with body falling apart...(excluding deaths by horrible disfigurements like bombs..)