So what do you do? Assume this is a non-consumable thing you really don't need two of, eg a board game
Give one gift away as a present to someone else (not mentioning that it's a cast off)
Give one gift away to someone else, explaining that you got two for Christmas
Ask the giver you know best if they kept a receipt, and exchange it.
Ask the giver you know less well if they kept a receipt, and exchange it.
Take it back to a shop you know sells it, without the receipt, and look pleading.
|Date:||December 25th, 2005 06:52 pm (UTC)|| |
Donate one to charity.
I'm sure neither giver would be upset, because it's not as if it's a completely unwanted present as you kept the other and they're the same.
Let a charity shop sell it on for a good cause.
|Date:||December 25th, 2005 06:54 pm (UTC)|| |
One Christmas we got 2 copies of Cranium from different relatives. When we opened the wrapping on the second (having allready opened and played the first) we thanked them for such a lovely gift of an excellent game but explained that we allready had a copy (which we loved) and that whilst this was an excellent gift could we please have the receipt to take it back.
Multiple people have given me duplicate books (including my brother buying me 'the Elegent Universe 3 years after I first bought it and an aunt buying the Chronicles of Narnia roughly 10 years after I was first given it), they go back to $bookshop (usually Borders, Cambridge) where I explain that I allready have a copy and here is this mint condition, only just out of the wrapping paper copy that they can sell to someone else and they have allways given me gift vouchers in exchange or asked me to find something I *do* want to swap it for, and since I like books I am more than happy with this arrangement. Bonus with distant relatives, if they don't *know* you had it you can allways pretend that the old copy was the one they gave you if they come over (unlike taking back things you just don't like).
Having spent many hours of my life stuck in line behind pleading, receiptless returners-of-gifts, I would like to cast the strongest possible anti-vote for Option #6.
|Date:||December 27th, 2005 02:28 pm (UTC)|| |
Me too. Absolutely. I must also include a warning for your own sake that you will risk being eviscerated by a billion till roll imparted paper cuts if you do.
If there's someone I know would like it, I'll certainly "re-gift" it without mentioning that it was a gift. If it's something obvious like a book I might try taking it back without the receipt and pleading. Most likely, though, I'll either donate the surplus to a charity shop, freecycle it, or ebay it.
|Date:||December 26th, 2005 12:16 am (UTC)|| |
Donate to charity shop.
|Date:||December 26th, 2005 10:49 am (UTC)|| |
What I'd do would depend on what it was and whether I could think of someone else who'd want it right now - in which case I'd give it away - otherwise I'd see about exchanging it.
If I were giving it away, I usually explain it was a duplicate, because I don't want to seem nicer than I am ;)
Which giver to ask for a receipt depends less on how well I know them and more on what I know of them. I'd feel comfortable asking my own family or Tony's immediate family, they'd probably find the situation funny, and my own family has had its share of duplicate gifts over the years (like when I got Dad the same book he got Mum). If I knew someone was likely to get offended, I wouldn't ask. And there's alaways eBay or ucam.adverts.
|Date:||December 27th, 2005 08:24 pm (UTC)|| |
Actually, with that last one, I'd only do it if I was sure which shop (or chain of shops) it had come from - like if it was an item of clothing with the shop's name on the label. I wouldn't try to take back a board game or a book or whatever which could have come from any of a dozen places.
|Date:||December 30th, 2005 03:18 pm (UTC)|| |
I usually end up with one of something I already had, rather than two people buying the same thing. And I always go for "oops, I already have it" to the giver, and give them the option of what they'd like to do. There were a couple of instances of it in our house at Christmas. With CDs and DVDs it tends to go "never mind, we'll keep it and find something else to give you".
Depending on the gift, mathom parties ;) Not always appropriate, but can be very nice: they feel their gift did go to a good home.