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|Date:||September 19th, 2005 03:36 pm (UTC)|| |
Why is the idea of being pitied such a bad one?
I think there is an analogy with jealousy.
Jealousy has overtones of "I wish that person weren't more fortunate than me", but alternatively one can think "isn't so-and-so lucky" and be glad about it, and pleased that they're happy.
Pity sometimes has negative connotations of sense of superiority, but a slightly different notion is that of "feeling sad because someone is not having as good a time of things as one would like" (sometimes combined either with a sense of wondering how this could be improved, or sadness if one feels one can't help).