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September 16th, 2005
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Friends who don't tell you they're in a relationship for the first 5 months

Look, just because you feel you have to tell the world everything doesn't mean everyone else does too
2(2.6%)
Some people just don't want to jinx things before they know where they're going
8(10.4%)
It's OK they didn't tell you because they didn't tell anyone else
1(1.3%)
How dare they spend three years whinging at you they don't have a girlfriend and then not bother to tell you when they do!
4(5.2%)
They're just mathmo / compsci types who don't know how to communicate, just pity them
3(3.9%)
They like wielding the Power and Intrigue that having Secrets gives them
0(0.0%)
Look, everyone knows you're a gossip, who in their right minds would tell you anything?
0(0.0%)

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From:stephdairy
Date:September 16th, 2005 10:51 am (UTC)
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Of course, we're now all madly speculating about who you're talking about!

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From:senji
Date:September 16th, 2005 10:52 am (UTC)
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I wouldn't go /that/ far...
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From:enismirdal
Date:September 16th, 2005 10:54 am (UTC)
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*chooses random tickyboxes as is ignorant of persons involved*
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From:lisekit
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:06 am (UTC)
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I don't tell if I'm not asked. I don't keep things actively secret, but I've had things escape people's notice just because I haven't been asked.
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From:atreic
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:20 am (UTC)
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I don't feel I can ever ask though. I mean, if people have been stressed that they don't have a girlfriend for ages, coming out with "By the way, do you have a girlfriend yet" doesn't make one popular. And even "Gosh, you haven't whinged about not having a girlfriend for ages, does that mean you've got one?" isn't going to go down well whatever the answer is.
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From:feanelwa
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:07 am (UTC)
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Maybe they just forgot they hadn't already told you? I forgot to tell one of my best friends when I broke up with Andrew because I thought I'd told her and not the other one instead.
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From:the_lady_lily
Date:September 16th, 2005 02:15 pm (UTC)
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Yes, but that's just because it's us. I don't think you could apply that as a blanket rule to the world ;)

(Memo to self - I owe you a proper life-update [such as it is] e-mail. Prod me if one hasn't arrived after the weekend.)
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From:ewx
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:28 am (UTC)
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Telling a known gossip saves the effort of telling everyone yourself l-)
From:senji
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:43 am (UTC)
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Maybe one should issue press releases to gossips?
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From:fluffymark
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:53 am (UTC)
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*nods* I tell the world everything, and just really feel uncomfortable when someone close holds back important life stuff like that. I can understand if people forget, or if they need asking before telling (and I *do* ask), but sometime people deny things even in the face of overwhelming evidence, and that just irritates me. Just last week I booked a trip to Riga with my best friend C, and it was only when she forwarded me info on the hostel booking did I notice that she'd booked a double room to share with her friend D. I've chatted with her a few times since, and she's still not admitted to being in a relationship with him. She even deletes any comments he posts on her LJ that give any hint that they may be together. Is most odd. :/
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From:angoel
Date:September 16th, 2005 11:54 am (UTC)
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They don't realise that they're in a relationship, despite it being obvious to everyone.
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From:satanicsocks
Date:September 16th, 2005 12:17 pm (UTC)
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that's actually a very good point, some people would give public announcements at the first date, others wait until much much later :) I remember having past conversations along the line of "are we going out then?" "I suppose we are" :)
From:neonchameleon
Date:September 16th, 2005 12:59 pm (UTC)
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Was it a case of not telling you or not making a big fuss over an announcement, and just leaving it to the grapevine?
From:(Anonymous)
Date:September 16th, 2005 01:00 pm (UTC)
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Being me when people don't tell me things it is because they are afraid the other person would be frightened of me or 'removed'.
Abner
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From:andrewwyld
Date:September 16th, 2005 01:28 pm (UTC)
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Never underestimate the power of jinxing it.  I speak as one who knows.  Actually, it usually goes pear-shaped when I don't tell anyone, either, but that just makes me glad I didn't.
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From:passage
Date:September 16th, 2005 05:39 pm (UTC)
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So you're sure they're a friend? And you have spoken in the last five months?

I find it appaling, but it's not the first time I've come across it. on reflection 'and' might be a better conjunction than 'but' for that sentence.
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From:ashfae
Date:September 17th, 2005 05:04 pm (UTC)
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Ditto the first not wanting to jinx it slipping into assuming everyone knows without realizing someone doesn't; this happens to me all the time. (I'm the one who doesn't know, I mean, because people tend to assume I'll have heard, and I never do)
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