Too much of a good thing|
I have lived in one place for too long. I have far too much stuff. It Will Not Fit. And yet there is so much of it I cannot bear to let go, and a much larger subset of stuff I could let go, if only I had a week to sit down and go through it.
I hate throwing things away. I hate having too much stuff. I hate being unappreciative of things I have been bought. And I hate letting go of memories. And, of course, it will not physically fit in the new place. This has to be taken into account too.
There will be sales, and giveaway posts. But you cannot giveaway the things that have value to noone but me. I have been blessed in my life by so many wonderful people, and sometimes the only link I have to my memories of them is stumbling across something pretty they bought me once.
Gah. Gah. *Arrrrgh* Doom.
*hugs* I know what you mean. When we moved house a few years ago, we decided to do a car boot sale to get rid of stuff. And quite a lot of the stuff consisted of old toys and kiddie books of mine. It was so sad that it actually made me sit down and cry for a bit (not in front of anyone though, thankfully) - what I'll never forget is letting some woman I didn't know walk away with my Beatrix Potter sticker book for a bargain price of 50p. Because I *didn't want her to have it*. And I feel so damn selfish, and yet tearful at the same time, for saying so.
Sorry, that was just depressing, wasn't it? On a more upbeat note, you know in your heart that possessions are not what matters - what matters is that you have emperor
and you're happy together :)
|Date:||August 7th, 2005 03:44 pm (UTC)|| |
You can fit it in. The new place has different, differently-shaped spaces. You just have to work out where they are and find a way to organise your stuff into a new layout accordingly.
My last move was to a plcae literally half the size of the place before, but all the many things found themselves new spaces. (Apart from the stuff I had forgotten I owned and didn't really want to keep, of course, which a house move is always good for identifying and getting rid of.)
|Date:||August 7th, 2005 04:08 pm (UTC)|| |
In my third year I had basically a small apartment to myself, with a sitting room, bedroom, bathroom and kitchenette. At the end of the year I had to get three rooms' worth off stuff into my kind-of full room at home which isn't massive. It took me three weeks but I managed to put it all away.
Alternatively you could realise you'll be getting new memorabilia once you move into your new place, and that stuff will be reminders of the new togetherness which could be more valuable than memories of old.
Or you could take commemorative photos in all directions of things that aren't too functional but you would've wanted to keep. I've a box of mathematical paper models that is likely to go that way once I note down construction methods.
Shelving may allieviate the problem.
I don't see how you have to get rid of everything that is personal / connects / reminds you of someone unless your new place is 1m3 or you happen to know hundreds of people.
|Date:||August 7th, 2005 04:21 pm (UTC)|| |
Both nails on both heads, Mr Robhu. You continue to impress me :)
Of course, actually it's 2m3
, but emperor
gets one of them :)
You continue to impress me :)
Continue..? I didn't know I ever had previously!
It's quite amazing what shelving can do - my new flat is probably 50% bigger in volume than my old one, but I found that I didn't have anywhere to put my stuff... I realised I had some
shelving in my old flat so I got lots
of shelving for my new flat (in the form of book cases so I wouldn't upset the land lord by drilling holes etc) and now I have crazy amounts of space... I remember in my original flat I had a bunkbed where the bottom turned into either a sofa or a double bed, that came in handy (*cough*).Of course, actually it's 2m3, but emperor gets one of them :)
If you're at the stage of moving in together surely you should be able to easily increase your share, women are very good at persuading men to do pretty much anything I find.
|Date:||August 8th, 2005 12:22 pm (UTC)|| |
>might be worth finding out if there's a Freecycle in Cambridge?
They tried that a few years ago, but all the bikes (painted a tasteful green) were nicked in the first half hour...
|Date:||August 8th, 2005 05:58 pm (UTC)|| |
take pictures of the pretty things, instead...