Bother. I was very organised back in March, and bought a wedding… - Sally's Journal
Bother. I was very organised back in March, and bought a wedding anniversary card. However, I was overwhelmed by a fit of paranoia while in Tesco's last night that I had lost it, and so bought another one. Predictably, this means I have two.
This is, of course, infinitely better than having none. But it still leaves me with a question:
What should I do?
Give him one card
Give him two cards
Start a tradition of giving him N cards on the Nth wedding-anniversary
Anything, sweet God, anything, but the previous option!
Put the spare card in a safe place where you won't lose it and he won't see it for a year...
...and I know such a place which I will explain in comments [pointlessly, as M can read this post]
(assume that at least one of the cards doesn't say "second wedding anniversary", or anything else that would scupper its re-use)
Next year you will want a different card anyway, and I'm sure M won't think it's too many.
|Date:||May 6th, 2008 11:08 am (UTC)|| |
Put the spare card in a safe place where you won't lose it and he won't see it for a year
My brain has just suggested "sellotaped to the back of his head". Possibly it's had too much coffee :-)
I would like to strongly deprecate this suggestion :-)
|Date:||May 6th, 2008 11:13 am (UTC)|| |
Colin and I have places where we put presents, and the other is *not* allowed to look. Could you and M be that restrained?
Same here. Alex deliberately buys me cards more than a year in advance, and I know where they are and I know not to look.
Deliberately? That's really quite insanely organised. Is there a particular reason for planning far in advance, or just to get several cards while you happen to remember?
I don't think Alex has ever been called insanely organised before :P
I think it's just that if he sees a card he thinks would be good for a given person, he buys it, even if the occasion is several months away, and/or if he already has a card and will have to save one of them for the following year.
I am slowly coming round to this point of view myself: that it's better to buy the ideal card for someone a year early than to go card-shopping the week before and just buy the best of what's available that week. And I once saw a 50th birthday card that would be great for my dad, but didn't buy it because he was only 48 at the time and it would have been silly; then when he turned 50 I couldn't find it again, wished I'd bought it, and had to make do with a less good one.
LOL. But yes, I agree, I don't naturally tend to do anything like that, but it totally makes sense, and I really do think it is laudably organised. It's even easier if you do it a lot, as you don't have to wonder where the card might be put, but have a good place for it. And you can pick up any generic cards you like, and fish one out when you have an occasion too.
I think one of them should be a secret card that may or may not be the setup for some sort of pervasive game.
I have no idea how this would work, or how you would manage to design it before tonight, but that would be awesome. Maybe MARRIAGE IS ITS OWN PERVASIVE GAME!
You could always take it back; Tesco will be happy to refund it. Unless you've written in it already. :-)
[x] write about it in an unlocked post, and let M share your angst...
[x] send one of them to a friend on their wedding anniversary (if it's a card that can be sent to a non-spouse)
's suggestion is clearly the best
Assuming you're not a particularly modern hot-desking environment, and aren't planning on moving jobs in the next 12 months or so, is there anything wrong with the office desk drawer?
decide on a securely hidden place, such as deep in the loft rafters, wrapped in cling film.
write a cron job on some machine you have access to which will email you a week in advance of next year's anniversary, reminding you about this card and its location.
(for bonus points, encrypt the whole thing).
Serves you right for being too organised ;-)
|Date:||May 6th, 2008 11:58 am (UTC)|| |
Give him one card on the first anniversary, two on the second, four on the next, eight on the next, and so on...
starts doing this, I shall post the excess every year to you with the cheapest stamp I can find attached :p
After sixty years, that's only a dozen Deimoses (international postal stand weight metric).
* Wow, congratulations to both!
* I don't think it matters that much any option would be nice
* You could leave it with a friend. Or give it to him in an envelope marked "do not open until [receive sign]". But now I hear them, "at work" sounds fine. And would also have the advantage that every day you can run across it and feel fluffy happy! :)
* Find a complicated function which is normally 1 but f(2) is 2.
* Find a complicated function where f(1) is 1 and f(2) is 2 but is often zero, and then you won't have to bother.
* Do whatever M suggestes
* Pretend to have an extra card, and make a public LJ post, to show M how much effort you've devoted to him :)
|Date:||May 6th, 2008 08:03 pm (UTC)|| |
I've already bought one for September ;)
|Date:||May 7th, 2008 05:43 pm (UTC)|| |
Let Herring give him the duplicate one!
|Date:||May 7th, 2008 09:18 pm (UTC)|| |
You are the cleverest! Why did no-one else suggest this?
Ah yes, because Herring isn't actually married to my husband... ;-)
|Date:||May 8th, 2008 01:09 pm (UTC)|| |